Episode 118 Notes

 

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Banter: Welcome to the 6 days ‘til Christmas, shopping overload Daddycast!  After 2 solid days of combing the big-box megastores, looking for that ‘perfect gift’…ahh, well, who am I kidding.  They say women go shopping, but men go BUYING.  I think that’s accurate.  Here hon, here’s some welding gloves for your mom…huh….knowing her she may like those…

 

The other activity occupying my time is the ever-productive garage-cleaning process.  Its like going back in time, peeling back layer upon layer of debris, each one triggering deep long-forgotten snippets of your past.  That’s not the point to the exercise, just a consequence.  I’m trying to get rid of mountains of stuff that accumulated last Christmas, so we have room to accumulate another mountain of stuff this Christmas, as well as make room in the house for all the extra stuff – the tree, the wrapped gifts, the in-laws…

 

You know, you have just the right stuff-to-space ratio for your family, then Christmas comes around and you have to adjust.  So you move furniture and other stuff out of the house, into the garage, so there’s more room for everybody.  Of course, that furniture and stuff never seems to make its way back into the house, and so you must return to the garage to re-examine your life as it was.  I equate it to one of those little slide puzzles; you slide one piece over here so you can move this one over here to position that one there, etc. etc. until you achieve organizational nirvana.  We don’t really ever achieve nirvana…I’m organizationally challenged actually.  We just rent a dumpster bin.

 

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Headlines: VAWA Passes Committee, Cable TV gets Family Friendly, Parents TV gets cable un-friendly, Take Two Teasspoons and Call me in the morning, More Drivers are talking on Cell phones, FDA sits on Rotavirus Sidelines,

 

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News: Breaking News from Feminist4Fathers.blogspot.com…Teri Stoddard, who is a good friend of the daddycast and a guest on this show, sent this in over the transom;

 

The Senate/House Conference Committee approved the final version of the VAWA.  The Violence Against Women Act of 1994 was the first legislation to address violence against women. VAWA was reauthorized in 2000, adding services for immigrant, rural, disabled and older women, and was due to expire this year. Many people are relieved today, knowing women and children in abusive situations will continue to have services in times of crisis.

 

Once at odds with Father’s rights groups, the VAWA has been amended to use ‘Gender Neutral’ language.  Many in the Father’s rights movement, also referred to as the ‘Family Rights movement’ are happy with the amendments,  There are still some loopholes that may prevent equal application of the law.  Here’s the quote from David Burroughs, author of the changed language;

 

      "Through the hard work and support of many dedicated supporters of equality we have succeeded in having language inserted in the VAWA that makes it clear to the DOJ [Department Of Justice] VAWO [Violence Against Women Office] that it can no longer circumvent the original intent of Congress that this legislation provide shelter and services to all victims of domestic violence regardless of their gender.

 

      It is a first step in excising the radical feminist model of domestic violence which asserts that only women can be victims and only men perpetrators and replacing it with the real world model that recognizes that domestic violence is committed by individuals who lack the ability to navigate relationships in a healthy mutually beneficial way and as a consequence resort to emotional and physical abuse through the use of emotional manipulation and intimidation and/or physical abuse. These characteristics derive from psychological shortcomings and are not unique to any one gender.

 

      A lot of wonderful dedicated people made this effort successful. The list is long but I must say that without the organizational work of Michael Robinson as well as his daily support for this effort it would not likely have succeeded.

 

      While there were a number of individual Senators and Congresspersons from both parties who stood up for justice and equality we must acknowledge the extraordinary leadership of House Judiciary Chairman Sensenbrenner as well as Ranking Member Conyers and Senate Judiciary Committee Chairman Specter and Senator Hatch."

 

David R. Burroughs, Esq.

Legislative Consultant, (SHCFC)

Safe Homes for Children and Families Coalition

Burroughs0@aol.com

185 Springfield Dr.

North East,MD 21901

410-392-8244 (o)

302-540-1723 (c)

Cable Industry Gets Family Friendly

By JENNIFER C. KERR

Associated Press Writer

 

Under pressure from the government, the nation's two largest cable companies and several others announced Monday a plan to offer packages of family friendly channels to give parents another option to shield children from sex, rough language and violence.

 

Kyle McSlarrow, head of the main cable trade group, said Monday that industry leader Comcast Corp., No. 2 Time Warner Cable, and a handful of other companies would start offering 'family choice' tiers, most likely by spring.

 

Details will vary by company, McSlarrow, president of the National Cable & Telecommunications Association, told the Senate Commerce Committee. He did not have an estimate on the cost.

 

The industry has come under increased scrutiny for raunchy programming, most recently from the head of the Federal Communications Commission. Chairman Kevin Martin urged cable executives at an indecency forum earlier this month to give parents additional tools to help navigate the hundreds of channels available to consumers.

 

Without endorsing a specific solution, Martin offered several suggestions, including family friendly tiers and so-called 'a la carte' pricing, which would let customers pick and pay for only those channels they want.

 

Most cable executives have wholly dismissed the idea of a la carte, saying it would drive up costs and lead to the demise of channels that can't attract enough advertising dollars.

 

McSlarrow told lawmakers that he hoped the industry's announcement would stave off government intervention.

 

'I really hope that we can take mandates off the table,' he said. 'If the government intrudes into this space, it will get it wrong.'

 

And now, the rather pointed response from the Parent’s Television Council…

 

LOS ANGELES (December 15, 2005) – Today, Parents Television Council President L. Brent Bozell blasted Time Warner’s family tier as “a very bad joke.”

 

“It is perfectly obvious Time Warner is deliberately offering a product designed to fail. Any family wanting family programming and which would subscribe to Time Warner’s ‘family tier’ would not be allowed to watch:

 

History Channel, QVC, Turner Classic Movies, Home Shopping Network, TVLand, Biography Channel, Animal Planet, The Learning Channel, Hallmark Channel, Game Show Network, ESPN, ESP2, ESPN Classics, MSNBC, Fox News Channel, CNBC, Outdoor Life, Golf Network, Speed Network, WORD Network, Eternal Word Television Network, Trinity Broadcasting Network, Inspiration Network, Travel Channel, CMT, Sprout,

GAC

 

“The average family would find most programming on these networks to be appropriate for family viewing. But not Time Warner. According to Time Warner, no family should want to watch sports. According to Time Warner, no family should want to receive any news channel other than Time Warner’s CNN. According to Time Warner, classic movies are not appropriate for families. And neither is religious programming.

 

“Time Warner’s ‘family tier’ proposal proves beyond a doubt that it is families, not the industry, that should decide what is appropriate family programming. Cable choice remains the only serious idea.

 

…They listed a whole bunch of channels that are NOT part of Time-Warner’s so-called family tier proposal.  I think that PTC is playing bully politics, and while I’m in favor of more choice and more control over which channels I’d like to see, the fact that the cable networks are making concessions is a good thing.  If quibbling over which channels to include is what’s left, chalk one up in the win column, calm down and negotiate – don’t blast-off!

 

PTC Stats: Interesting Statistic of the Week

Nearly 70 percent of young children have TVs in their bedrooms today; nearly half (49 percent) have videogame systems in their bedrooms; 46 percent have VCRs; 37 percent have DVD players; 35 percent have cable or satellite TV service; 24 percent have PCs and 18 percent are hooked up to the Internet in their bedrooms. (Nickelodeon survey, "The New Normal") (Associated Press, November 20, 2005)


Expert Helps Parents Understand World of Video, Computer Games

Newswise - Adults who are not familiar with video and computer games should be cautious about what they buy children this holiday season, says a Purdue University video game expert.

 

"In a perfect world, video games would be rated in terms of content and complexity," says Samantha Blackmon, an assistant professor of English who studies representations of race and gender video games. "But the content of video games can be surprising. I recently played a football video game that was rated mature, which is similar to an R rating for a movie, and I never thought a football game would receive that kind of rating. But it did because of the foul language used by the commentator."

 

Blackmon says young children will often imitate the language they hear, and they also will draw conclusions about how they should see women and minorities represented in the games.

 

"That's why it is important for adults to take an interest in the games children play," says Blackmon, who owns more than a dozen video game systems and hundreds of games. "Plus, video games can be used as a teaching tool. In my house, we play games with closed captioning and turn the sound off. The subtitles not only improve reading comprehension but also help with reading speed."

 

Here are some other buying tips:

 

* Visit the game developer's Web site to view trailers for specific games. These trailers, just like for movies, will give you a good feel about the game.

 

* When at a gaming store, ask if you can play the game. If you are not a video game player, then ask someone who works there to demonstrate the game for you.

 

* Unless a child is going to be supervised, avoid role-playing games utilizing the Internet to connect the players. You don't know what the other players are going to do, which can very quickly change the content of games.

 

* Even if buying a game for a specific teenager, be aware if there are other children in the house. A game may be suitable for a 17-year-old, but chances are the 8-year-old will be playing it, too. Look for games that are appropriate for all ages.

 

* Pay attention to the video game rating system. It is more complicated than the motion picture code. The Entertainment Software Rating Board explains the ratings at http://www.esrb.org/.

 

* Look for video games that involve puzzles or quests. These types of games teach and offer logic challenges rather than just entertain.

 

* Before buying the latest system, make sure age-appropriate games are available for that console.

 

 

…OK some good advice here…at least until I got to the ESRB part.  Yes, the ESRB ratings can help – by completely dismissing AO rated games for kids.  But only as a guide – play the games your kids play – in the store before you buy is a great idea.  That last one is kinda tough for you early-adopter tech geeks out there.  I confess to being one myself.  You can’t wait to get your hands on the X-Box 360 or PSP or whatever, so you buy it when there’s only 13 games for it, half of which are already AO rated…but for your kids sake, wait a bit.

 

X-Box has always been focused on older age demographics.  I like the Nintendo Gamecube and GameBoy portables myself.  I have others, but my son had those because of the kid-friendly game choices.
A Spoonful of Sugar Makes Some Kids Feel Good

Newswise - It's no secret that children like sweet-tasting foods and beverages. It's also known that sweet taste acts as an analgesic in children, reducing their perception of pain. – REALLY??

 

Now researchers at the Monell Chemical Senses Center report in the current issue of the journal Pain that the analgesic efficacy of sweet taste is influenced both by how much a child likes sweet taste and by the child's weight status.

 

"Some children like sweets not just because they taste good, but also because sweets make them feel good," explains senior author Julie Mennella, Ph.D. "This study further reveals that for children, sweetness' effectiveness as an analgesic is related to liking for sweet taste and also to weight status."

 

In the study, sucrose preferences were determined for 198 children, ranging in age from 5 to 10 years, and their mothers. Children as a group preferred higher levels of sweetness than the adults, selecting a favorite sweetness concentration equivalent to adding 11 teaspoons of sugar to an 8-ounce glass of water. For comparison, an 8-ounce serving of soda contains approximately 6 teaspoons of sugar.

 

There were individual differences across both age groups, with approximately half of the children and one quarter of mothers preferring sucrose concentrations of 24 percent (14 teaspoons per 8-ounce water) or greater.

 

To evaluate response to pain, the researchers used a classical model known as the cold pressor test, measuring how long subjects were able to keep their hands in a cold water bath maintained at 50 degrees F (10 C). The cold pressor test was repeated twice, once with the subject holding a 24 percent sucrose solution in the mouth and again with water in the mouth.

 

In normal weight children, palliative properties of the sweet sucrose taste were related to the children's sweet preferences: sucrose reduced the experience of pain in children with higher sweet taste preferences, but not in children who preferred lower concentrations of sweetness.

 

However, when the child's weight status was taken into account, sucrose's effectiveness as an analgesic was blunted in overweight and at-risk-for-overweight children who preferred higher levels of sweetness.

 

Mennella comments, "This intriguing finding may reflect differences in brain chemistry systems. Additional studies clearly are needed to evaluate how dietary habits and individual differences contribute to preference for sweet taste in children and its physiological consequences."

 

Unlike for children, sweet taste was not an effective analgesic for mothers, regardless of their preferred sweetness level.

 

"Even women who preferred high levels of sweetness similar to that selected by the majority of children did not evidence an analgesic response to sucrose. Thus, the lack of an analgesic response to sucrose during adulthood apparently is not due to the lowered sucrose preference observed in adults overall," states lead author Yanina Pepino, Ph.D.

 

"Children and adults differ with regard to a wide variety of physiological and endocrine differences, and future studies should identify variables that promote or impede the ability of sweet taste to act as an analgesic in both children and adults."

 

…I hope they do a follow-up with the kids in this study to find out if any of ‘em become diabetic….next story…


Questionnaire may predict eating disorders

 

UNITED KINGDOM Dec. 15 -- A new questionnaire may be able to predict whether a young woman is at risk for developing an eating disorder, according to researchers at Oxford University. In a study published in the December 2005 issue of the American Journal of Psychiatry, researchers gave young female dieters (ages 16-23) a questionnaire about their eating habits, and were able to accurately predict which ones would develop an eating disorder more than 70 percent of the time. In general, the young women in the study group who progressed to an eating disorder were more likely to say they ate "in secret" or frequently wanted the feeling of an empty stomach. They also showed preoccupation with food and their body shape, and feared they'd "lose control" of their eating. Study authors are hopeful that similar questionnaires could be used during routine doctor visits to identify eating disorders before they fully develop.

 

…OK dads – ask your daughters some questions!  If you think they’re hiding an eating problem, ask the questions, “Do you like the feeling of an empty stomach”.

 

Or, more important, if you think your kid may have a problem, get ‘em evaluated – and then get a second opinion anyway.

 

 


More Drivers Than Ever Talk on Cell Phones

By KEN THOMAS

Associated Press Writer

 

More people than ever are turning their cars into personal phone booths, with a million and a half drivers gabbing on cell phones at any given time. Women and young people are the most common yakkers.

 

About 10 percent of the people on the road during the day are using cell phones, up from 8 percent in 2004, the government reported Thursday.

 

Six percent of drivers were holding the phones to their ears, up from 5 percent last year.

 

The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration, which issued the report, recommends that motorists use cell phones while driving only during an emergency.

 

Connecticut, New York, New Jersey and the District of Columbia prohibit talking on hand-held cell phones while driving. The new data could add fuel to the debate over whether drivers should be limited in their use of cell phones on the nation's highways.

 

Cities such as Chicago and Santa Fe, N.M., require handsfree devices in automobiles. But eight states _ Florida, Kentucky, Louisiana, Mississippi, Nevada, New York, Oklahoma and Oregon _ bar local governments from restricting cell phone use in vehicles, according to the National Conference of State Legislatures.

 

Researchers have tried to figure out the possible risks of driving and dialing. A study published by the British Medical Journal in July found drivers using cell phones were four times as likely to get into a crash that could cause injuries serious enough to land them in the hospital.

 

But the study, conducted by the Virginia-based Insurance Institute for Highway Safety, suggested that using a handsfree device instead of a hand-held phone may not necessarily improve safety. Researchers found that both phone types increased the risk.

 

Industry officials contend cell phones are just one form of distraction: many drivers eat fast food, push buttons on their stereo, apply makeup or talk to other passengers.

 

'Talking on a cell phone is one of many possible distractions and by narrowly focusing on just this one could create a false sense of security with drivers,' said John Walls, spokesman for CTIA _ The Wireless Association.

 

The survey found that 10 percent of drivers between 16 and 24 were holding cell phones to their ears, compared with 8 percent in 2004. Only 1 percent of drivers ages 70 and above were using handheld cell phones.

 

Many states have sought restrictions for young drivers using cell phones. Ten states and the District of Columbia carry the prohibitions, with many of the laws approved in the past year.

 

The National Transportation Safety Board, meanwhile, voted in September to recommend that all states make it illegal for teenagers and new drivers to talk on the phone while driving.

 

Women were more likely than men to use handheld phones behind the wheel, with 8 percent of women driving and talking into their cell phone, compared with 5 percent of men.

 

For the first time, the government examined drivers manipulating hand-held devices at the wheel, including dialing, typing a text message or playing a video game. Only 0.2 percent of drivers were observed fiddling with the gadgets.

 

…DWI used to stand for ‘Driving while intoxicated’…new definition: Driving while internetting.  Or maybe, DWO, driving while online.  Geez people, get a headset if you MUST talk on a cell phone while in the car.  If you’re driving with your kids, you already have them distracting you, don’t add to it.  Humans aren’t real good at multi-tasking.  Concentrate on driving when your kids are with you in  the car.

 

 


FDA Mulls Rotavirus Vaccine for Infants

By JOHN J. LUMPKIN

Associated Press Writer

 

An experimental vaccine to prevent a sometimes deadly diarrheal infection in infants appears to be effective and free from a dangerous problem associated with an earlier vaccine, Food and Drug Administration reviewers found.

 

But an FDA reviewer said the agency needs more information on one trial from manufacturer Merck & Co. before it can fully gauge the effectiveness of the new vaccine, RotaTeq, according to documents posted Tuesday on the agency's Web site. A Merck spokeswoman said the company has supplied all requested data to the FDA.

 

Still, the reviewer wrote that RotaTeq is 'highly likely' to be effective in protecting children against rotavirus.

 

In the United States, rotavirus infects many children before their third birthday, sometimes resulting in hospitalization. The virus kills several dozen American children a year. Children eventually develop an immunity.

 

In developing countries with less medical care, rotavirus is much more dangerous, killing one child in 250.

 

An expert FDA advisory panel was expected to discuss the experimental treatment Wednesday. The agency and its advisers may be cautious about approving it in the face of problems tied to an earlier vaccine, RotaShield, which manufacturer Wyeth pulled in 1999 after 20 out of 1 million infants developed a potentially fatal twisted bowel condition within a month of receiving it.

 

But researchers looked closely for cases of children developing the condition, called intussusception, in the RotaTeq trials studied by the FDA, and found it did not occur more often than it did in children who received a placebo instead of the vaccine.

 

The vaccine would be given to infants as a liquid during regular vaccinations at the ages of two, four and six months.

 

Dr. Penny Heaton, who helped develop the vaccine for Merck, said the company's studies show the vaccine reduced gastrointestinal illness caused by rotavirus by 74 percent in infants in the first year after taking the vaccine, when compared with those given a placebo. It reduced severe cases of the illness by 98 percent.

 

In infants studied for a second year after taking the vaccine, gastrointestinal illness caused by rotavirus was reduced by 62 percent compared with placebo; severe cases were reduced by 88 percent, Heaton said.

 

Company officials said the vaccine is meant to be effective for two years, because an older child who gets rotavirus is much less vulnerable to dehydration and other severe consequences of the illness, and therefore less likely to need hospitalization. Children would still probably catch rotavirus and develop natural immunities to it.

 

A third vaccine, GlaxoSmithKline's Rotarix, has been licensed in Mexico but has not yet come up for approval in the United States.

 

…FDA means ‘Feds Delay Again’ – Let’s get on the ball, here.  If its effective, its effective.  Let doctors and us – parents – decide if we want our kids to have it or not.

 

I haven’t trusted the FDA since the saccharin debacle….

 

 


More extracurricular involvement may be better, say researchers

 

NEW LONDON, Conn., Dec. 13 -- When it comes to extracurricular activities and teens, many parents wonder how much is too much? According to two studies conducted at Connecticut College and the University of Michigan, greater involvement in extracurricular activities -like dance classes, soccer practices, and music lessons- are associated with a number of academic, psychological and social benefits. The first study, which was recently accepted by the journal Applied Developmental Science, found that the benefits of extracurricular activities are greatest for adolescents who participate for a longer time, in a higher number of activities, and a wider range of activities. The findings were particularly true for the oldest youths. The research used data from Eccles' Childhood and Beyond Study, a longitudinal study of children's development from first through twelfth grade. This sample was purposely selected so that family and neighborhood resources would not be obstacles to activity participation. The second study, recently accepted to the journal Developmental Psychology, also confirmed this relationship among 11th graders, in particular, and among an economically diverse group of teens. The research found that participation in 11th grade high school extracurricular activities predicted academic and psychological adjustment at 11th grade, and educational status and civic engagement two years later. Moreover, study authors reported that involvement in a range of extracurricular activities was associated with the most beneficial outcomes for youth.

 

 

…OK this story directly contradicts a story I reported in October, which stated that studies had shown declining academic results with increased extra-curricular activities.  That study linked the decline to stress!

 

So – what we have here is a situation where there is no perfect formula for how to raise a kid – sorry academia.  You’re gonna have to leave it up to the parents to figure out what’s best for their kids.


Article published Dec 13, 2005

Judge left to rule on caged kids

NORWALK (AP) -- A five-day custody hearing provided an exhaustive look into a family accused of harming their 11 adopted children by making some of them sleep with only blankets in wooden cages. Now a judge must decide whether the couple abused or neglected the special-needs children.

 

Juvenile Judge Timothy Cardwell is expected make a decision in two weeks. If the allegations are not proved, Michael and Sharen Gravelle, who live near rural Wakeman in northern Ohio, could regain custody.

 

"They're about upbeat as you can possibly be," their attorney, Kenneth Myers said Saturday. "This was a very rough week for everybody. It was long. It was grueling. There were some difficult gut-wrenching things

 

said in open court. There are things that family members shouldn't have to hear about other family members."

 

The hearing concluded Saturday with Elaine Thompson, a social worker hired by the Gravelles, saying she approved of the cages but never asked the children how they felt about them during her weekly counseling sessions with them.

 

She described the unruly behavior of the children, which included urinating and defecating throughout the house and out windows. Some of the children were physically abusive to the others, she said.

 

The 11 children, ages 1 to 15, have health and behavioral problems such as fetal alcohol syndrome and a disorder in which children eat nonfood items.

 

The Gravelles have not been charged with any crime and deny abusing the children.

 

The hearing ended without the Gravelles testifying. Myers said he decided not to put them on the witness stand because their children were upset about hearing their public statements earlier in the week, Myers said.

 

He said he was also told by the judge that if the hearing didn't conclude Saturday, they would have to wait until February to continue it.

 

"I want the judge to make a decision quickly so that we can either move on to the next step or so these kids can come home," he said.

 

The children slept in cages with alarms that would go off if the children got out of them at night.

 

One expert hired by the county testified that 11 special-needs children were too many to have in one home.

 

But Robin Jacob, an employee from the agency that helped place the 11th child in the Gravelle home, testified that 11 was not excessive and she had no reason to believe the couple couldn't handle the children. Jacob didn't learn of the cages until August when Huron County began to investigate the Gravelles.

 

Thompson criticized Huron County officials for not discussing alternatives before taking the children from the home Sept. 9

 

"Removal is the worst thing they could have done," she said. "They were ripped out of the home with no notice and no ability to say goodbye."

 

Sharen Gravelle shed a tear and wiped her nose with a tissue during Thompson's testimony, one of the few times either she or her husband showed emotion during the hearing.

 

…This courtroom zoo went on for a week, the judge basically threatened the defense with delays if he called more witnesses (like the parents) the parents still have not been charged with ANY CRIME, and their kids are still not with them.  And people wonder why I don’t trust the government.
Purdue Security Experts: 'Patch' to Protect New Computers

 

Newswise — To protect the millions of computers flying off store shelves this Christmas shopping season, Purdue University computer security experts recommend that buyers acquire anti-virus software and regularly install "patches" offered by software manufacturers.

 

Many new computers come with anti-virus software installed. If a new computer does not, Information Technology at Purdue recommends installing a common brand, such as McAfee, Norton or Symantec. Because such protection is so important, Purdue provides anti-virus software to its students and employees free.

 

ITaP's chief information security officer Mike Carr said it's important to run scans with the software at least once a week to detect viruses, more often if the computer is connected to the Internet, and to update the anti-virus software regularly.

 

"Anti-virus software is only as good as its latest update," Carr said. "Most vendors release regular updates to meet the latest computer virus threats."

 

The patches issued by makers of operating systems, such as Windows XP and MacOS, will repair or improve the makers' software. Whether the patch is for an operating system or for a program application, such as word processing, Carr recommends obtaining and installing it.

 

"Many times these patches address security vulnerabilities that have been found after release of the software," Carr said. "Most computers come with documentation to teach users how to obtain update features."

 

…Good advice – If you’re buying a new computer, patch it up before turning your kids loose on it. I’m a real stickler for patches, updates and keeping anti-virus and anti-spyware up-to-date.  I’ve spent lots of time cleaning up friends PCs this year.


 

Family and friends always wrestle with what to get college-age folks on their Christmas list. Here's advice straight from the students' mouths.

 

Newswise — Here’s an inside scoop for the college student on your Christmas gift list: I-Pods, CDs and money are a sure bet, it’s sometimes the little things that count, and while most students have a preferred list of gifts they want, they’d really enjoy a surprise under the tree.

 

Hendrix College senior Marli Kaufmann of Weaverville, Calif., recently quizzed 1,100 fellow Hendrix students via an email survey asking what they wanted for Christmas or Hanukkah, if they tell their family what they want for Christmas or would prefer to be surprised and what’s the most meaningful gift they’ve ever received.

 

While items like an I-Pod, DVD boxed sets, digital cameras, warm winter clothing and money and gift cards topped most students’ wish lists, many of the 54 students who responded to the survey were most excited about reunions with loved ones.

 

“I want nothing more this Christmas than to see my family,” said junior Lizzy Price of Little Rock, Ark. “I’ve been studying abroad since September, so it’s been a few months since I’ve seen them.”

 

Sophomore Alicia Owen of Tulsa, Okla., said she will be happy just to be out of school and with her family.

 

Still, gift-giving is a big part of their holiday season, and most students have very specific wishes.

 

“I want cowboy boots, books, a warm coat and some DVDs and money,” said sophomore Liz Blackman of Dallas, Texas. Freshman Rita Rein of Mountain View, Ark., wants clothes, shoes, an I-Pod (the original) and a new cell phone.

 

Junior Chris Kreitlein of Russellville, Ark., who is asking for “a pair of jeans that will make me look like I have a butt,” among other things, said he doesn’t always get what he asks for.

 

“Well, you can tell them what you want until you are blue in the face, but I always get disappointed whether I tell them or not. I got a dust buster last year.”

 

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Y’know, I need to be careful what I wish for!!  I opened my big fat mouth and asked for mail…and boy did I get some!  Keep ‘em coming.  I don’t respond to all of ‘em, and I don’t use all of ‘em but I do enjoy reading one and all.  Thanks to everybody for listening, and subscribing, and thanks to Teri, Bryan, Greg, and Cat for writing in.  Comments, suggestions, general rants etcetera can be sent to: submit at 101usesforbabywipes.com.

 

From Bryan

Some thougts on #117

 

Sorry about your light mail bag last week, I'll give it a stuffing today.

 

I like the piano at Nordstroms also. I don't typically shop there, I'm no yuppie, but I like the piano. Ours was staffed last year, but I haven't seen it this year.

 

I am, admittedly, in an odd position on the whole Christmas/Holliday issue. Christmas has alwasy been my favorite time of year. Maybe it's the gifts, the songs, the decorations, the time off from school, or the proximity to my birthday (New Year's Eve). But, anyway, I love Christmas. Here's the catch, I am an athiest. Despite this I continue to celebrate the traditions I have grown to love as a kid. Last year I had a catholic coworker ask me how I could do that. Another coworker who is a  Jehova's Witness and I had to explain that much of Christmas is an artifical construct having nothing to do with christianity. I explained that I celebrate giving, family, love, peace and all that other good stuff without religion.

 

I don't blame businesses for playing it safe with Happy Hollidays, after all, they want to  sell to everyone, right? I don't think anyone should take offense to being wished the wrong holliday unless they wear a tag indicating their preference, and even then I don't konw if it's appropriate for me to wish a Jew a Happy Haunaka. However, the part that is bugging me this year is the the whole "Holliday" tree thing. Can anyone show me another holliday, celebrated in December, that revolves around an evergreen decorated with lights and ornaments. If they can't then it is a "Christmas" tree.

 

My wife and I both have iPods. She has a Mini and I have a 30GB color. Of course, being my son, my son is a total gadget/tech geek like me. So, at 8 he inherited my old Shuffle. He love it because he can listen to his mother's Chipmunks album and his Lenny Kravitz album. We try to make sure he keeps the volume down so he doesn't damage his tender ears.

 

I am with you, I rarely use abbreviations or the like when I use IM with my family and friends. I tend to type in, gasp, full, properly capitalized, puncuated and spelled sentences. I am able to do this as I can touch type ~45WPM thanks to excessive screen time since about age 12. (I am now 33)

 

My wife and I stay very involved in our son's life and have been working on anti-smoking, drinking and drug messages for him since he was able to talk. It was sometimes embarassing having our 4-year-old shout out "Smoking is bad" in public when he saw someone with a cigarette.

 

My son loves the Toon Test and gets excited when there is a new one. He generally gets 2-3 right each week. He tends to miss those aimed at <5 or >18 like Baby Einstein and Family Guy. But, I also tend to average 3 a week right. I got two right this week. :-) I will let my son listen tonight, I think he might get three.

 

Please feel free to excerpt from my rambling.

 

Dennis,

 

You're right, "Artificial" isn't quite the right word. But I think you got my point. I celebrate the modern secular holiday of Christmas which I see as having no religion in it. Like the church stole the mid-winter pagan celebrations to create Christmas, marketers have stolen it again to sell XBoxes. I see the whole birth of Jesus thing as a subset or side-set of the holiday. I like to think that we can all celebrate Christmas, and for some it has additional meanings.

 

I still love the Christmas music I grew up with. Silent Night, Little Drummer Boy, Do You Hear What I Hear, etc. One of my favorite all time Christmas albums is the 1966 Henry Mancini Christmas album.

 

As for the Christmas Tree issue, well we have that going on at work. We have a tree in the loby sponsored by a group at work to help needy children. It's one of those deals where you take a tag off the tree and return it with the gift wished for on the tag. A worthy charitable endeavor. The problem is the poster next to it said Christmas Tree, then a paper was put over Christmas that said Holliday, It was removed, replaced, and as of this morning removed again. I think it should say Christams, but I think the company is trying to be neutral.

 

I liked The Polar Express book but I am not keen on the movie as it looks like a big hollywood production that looses some of the original idea of the book. I haven't seen it but have read reviews that match my suspicion. I think the book falls into the category of Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus. I believe in the spirit of

 

I am not one of those militant athiests. I like to think I have more the mind set of "it doesn't hurt me if you believe in something I don't, as long as you don't force it on me" Where I have a problem is with the idea that NOT having religious symbols in public things is somehow an infringement of Christian beliefs. The same goes for the word "God" having to be in the Pledge of Aliegance, it was added after the fact, it doesn't belong there.

 

I realize that I am not as conservitive as you in some ways but I still appreciate the work you do on your show, keep up the good work.

 

By the way, last night my son got 3 out of 3 on the Tune Test.

 

From Cat in Canada

Hi Denis,

 

I have been listening to your show for a few weeks now, and really like it. I just didn't want to be just a lurker!

I was looking for your e-mail, but couldn't find it on the site!

Wanted you to know that I mentioned your show in my last show (#82).

Keep up the good work! Love the show.

 

Cat

www.CatFishShow.com

 

Hi Dennis,

   I've been meaning to write you but haven't had much to say except your show has come a long way from its first episodes.  Today your podcast sounds more polished without sounding over produced like a lot of podcasts... If I want to hear a Morning Zoo, I'll tune into one on my radio.  I have two boys, Nikolai (4 yrs) and Caleb (21 mnths).  Nikolai would like you to know that he loves your Toon Tests  but says he can do without the other stuff because it is boring.  

I've told him that it is news that parents can use.  He'd love it if you could put together a podcast of just the Toon Tests which he loves to hear again, and again, and again...

 

   So like I said I hadn't much to discuss with you until I got a note from the principal at Nik's school in his take home papers.  Nik is enrolled in a pre-school/daycare at a Lutheran Church/School.  He loves it and we're glad he's there.  Unfortunately, like you at the beginning of his school year we were hit with a slew of 'school- sales.'  This surprised me a little since we pay tuition for him to go to his school.  So on top of tuition we're stuck hitting up our family and friends for more money.  I don't get it, but someone in their wisdom has figured that this makes sense and I don't want to argue it because it would only give me a headache.  So, I just let it slide.  And then I got the note.  Unfortunately, I don't have it in front of me but for the most part it said because Christmas Gifts from the children in the past have consisted of a plethora of  different candles, perfumes, after shave lotions, ties, scarves,  etc., the teachers have requested that we give them cash instead.  Please use the attached envelope.  This cash will be collected over the next couple of weeks and presented to the teachers at the Classroom Christmas Parties.  My jaw hit the floor.  Cash!?!   Whatever happened to the saying, "It's the thought that counts?"  So, we don't mind your thoughts as long as it is in the form of cash?  To  me this is wrong on so many levels.  First, I don't know what's an appropriate amount to give.  If I give too much, does that mean I'm trying to buy extra attention for my son?  If I give too little, will  that affect the amount of attention that my son receives now?  Second, my son had absolutely no participation at all in this gift to his teacher.  He didn't pick anything out and he has no money.  So who is this gift from exactly?  A few days later we got a note from his teacher saying that the kids weren't going to do a gift exchange at school, rather she wanted us to put the money we would have used for the gift, once again, in the attached envelope and she will purchase some toys and art stencils for the classroom. These of course will stay with the school.  So, it's my understanding that the kids get nothing except a party and maybe some party favors.  Oh  yeah, and the kids are being asked to bring in the food for the party.  Unfortunately or fortunately (I haven't decided yet), my son won't be attending his classroom Christmas Party since he will be out of town.  Religious elements aside has Childhood Christmas become the movement of cash rather than the exchanging of gifts?  I feel sorry for my son, not being able to pick out a gift for a school friend or his teacher, or receiving a gift from a school friend. Unbelievable.

 

So, I'm interested to hear your thoughts on this.  Nik is my oldest, therefore I'm new to this school stuff as a parent.  So did I miss something in the Guide to Being a Parent Manual?  Best wishes to 

you and your family during this Holiday Season.

 

Merry Christmas,

Greg

 

I e-mailed Greg back about the situation with the teachers, and I suggested that he help his son make Christmas cards, handmade ones, and give those to the teachers in lieu of money.  He has a point: If schools are asking kids for money for school supplies – especially preschools – they know who they’re really targeting, don’t they?

 

I’m very glad everyone has enjoyed the ToonTest.  I created it to be an indicator of (a) just how much TV are your kids watching anyway, and (b) to see if you were watching the shows with your kids.  What ceases to amaze me is how absolutely amazing my son’s memory is for music.  I actually test him with the ToonTests before you get to hear them.  If I stump him, I know they’ll be hard.

 

While we’re on the subject, here we go…

 

[Cue ToonTest]

 

Answers: #3- CatDog, #2- Gigantor, #1- Teen Titans

 

I have set-up a humble little website where I have the all the ToonTests ready for download.  So check the website, 101usesforbabywipes.com and I’ll put a link to the page where you can find them.  I’m not gonna set-up a separate RSS feed and officially podcast them, they are a part of this podcast, but for all the parents – and kids – who like to listen to ‘em, this is my gift to you for Christmas!  Enjoy!

 

[Cue Wipes Use]

 


Wipes Use #35 – Choo Choo Track Trail

 

If you’re a regular visitor to my website, 101usesforbabywipes.com, you’ve probably seen the picture of my son playing with his cherished, favorite holiday toy – the really big, noisy train that encircles the Christmas tree.  The train has been recreated quite faithfully by the manufacturer, LGB  - which improperly translates into ‘Let’s Go Broke’ – you do that when you buy one of these train sets.  The detail is impressive.  It has headlights, tail lights, the boiler glows as if lit by a coal fire, it makes chuff-chuff noises, has a bell, and it also smokes…notably a bad habit to be sure.

 

The smoke is made by putting a few drops of magic smoke-stuff into the smokestack.  Add a 5-year-old to this holiday recipe and we have a mess just waiting to happen.  See, the smoke stuff is basically oil, that is very thin, almost like that lamp oil you use for old fashioned oil lanterns.  It works on squeaky hinges, too.  I know – I tried it in a fir of panic.  Cut me some slack, I was desperate when I used it to silence squeaky hinges.  It was last Christmas Eve, late at night, my wife and I were preparing for the next morning and didn’t wanna wake the prying curious eyes of my son…so I grabbed the smoke oil from under the tree, dabbed some drops on the hinges to the hall closet door and Presto – no squeaks and no weary child wandering around asking too many questions.

 

Ohh…sorry…wrong story…anyway, when the smoke oil is burned in the smokestack of the choo choo train, neat little tufts of white smoke curl up from the train – only at high speed of course – the oil doesn’t get hot enough to smoke at slower speed.  And besides the smoke, you also get – right down the center of the track, this dark, dingy crud that leaves a stain.  It looks like a skid-mark, but its just the crud from the smoke oil.  We thought we’d be smart and put down a mat to protect the carpet from the after-burned oil BEFORE the tree got decorated.  You can see the red and green mat in the photo on the website.  BUT – we found oh too late that the oil MELTS the plastic mat…so now what do we do?  What any other baby wipes user would do, of course!  Lay down a trail of baby wipes, still pre-folded from the package, and lay the choo choo track on top of them.  Now you have a protective barrier from that smoke-oil stuff, and what other crud may fly off the choo choo as your young engineer pilots his own Polar Express.

 

[Cue AlanJay]

[Cue Charlie Crowe – Joy – Holiday-ish]

[Cue Xmaswish from 101uses]